In case you didn't notice, I talk about experimentation a lot.
My entire CraftyBiz philosophy can be summed as:
“Experiment to find what works for you and your biz and then do it.”
But yesterday Kate asked me about the natural extension of doing your own thing:
When what works for me is very much not what ‘everyone else' thinks should work for me.
I started to reply about ways to convince the person.
Ways to show them “yeah, that's right, I'm a rebel and I'm ROCKING it.”
But then I remembered:
I've yet to convince anyone else that this was a good idea (whatever “this” might be: self-employment, working weird hours, gluten-free baking) if they weren't already willing to trust me.
M and I are great friends.
But sometimes she doesn't get me or my work. And when I tell her I'm now doing x (taking a sabbatical from selling, dyeing my hair blue, etc) and she starts listing all the reasons I should NOT DO IT OR ELSE I WILL DIIIIEEEE…I get defensive.
I try to explain.
I have thought this through, thoroughly!
I'm a responsible adult!
I have my reasons!
And soon I find myself thinking “You HAVE to understand“.
But, wait. Does she?
Will it change what I do (or what works for me) if she doesn't understand?
What do I need from her?
Support? Flexibility? Encouragement?
I decide what I need (internally!) and then ask her for it.
“Hey, M, I've decided to start work at 3pm from here on out. I need you to not call me from 3-10 because I'll be at work, like if I was working in an office, ok? Thanks!”
When it comes to you, you get to decide.
It's as simple as that.
The people in your life don't have to understand the why or the how.
Trying to convince them with your well-reasoned argument (I LOVE a well-reasoned argument) usually won't help things.
And I mean the things that really are YOURS to decide (examples: what time you start work or the way you do your work or if you wear pjs and a tiara all day).
But for all the you-stuff (which is most everything IN your business), it's yours to decide.
With piles of fun and experimentation and an open heart.
This single fact has changed so many conversations. And has released me from so much responsibility (I have to explain!) and so many arguments (Why won't you understand?!).
Try it. Experiment.
Let me know how it goes.