Choosing is hard

Last week I walked through the Map-Making Guide with the Starship. The first step (spoiler alert!) is setting an endpoint for the map – the specific, measurable goal you want to reach in the next 3-6 months.

It was this step, the most obvious starting place, that caused the most distress.

” I have these 4 goals and I'm going to work on all of them…”

“I can't pick just one!”

You love your craftybiz.
You love it's potential and all that it can become.

You want to honor all that it can be.

You want to keep it open and available.
You want to take it in every possible direction.

The sorrow of choosing

In choosing one, you are releasing other options.

(Just like in marriage.)

When you choose just one thing to focus on, you  acknowledge your own finiteness.

You recognize all that you want to do that can't be done (all at the same time).

Choosing one place for your focus means letting go of the other options and possibilities (for now).

And often we try to skip over this step, we gloss over the inherent sorrow in all those lost chances.

But it's ok. It's ok to mourn those other things. It's ok to be bummed you can't do it all.

Choosing is hard. There's a sort of loss when you choose one opportunity over another.

There's also a risk. One of the Starshippers put it beautifully when she said, “I don't want to verbalize my goal, because then I have to acknowledge my failure if I don't reach it. It's scary!”

Choosing is necessary

I'm not asking you to choose one thing for all time.
I'm not asking you to choose one thing for the next year.

In the Map-Making Guide, I am asking you to focus on one thing, one beautiful, magical endpoint for your map for the next month (or six).

In focusing like a laser, you are so much more likely to reach that place.
You are so much more likely to think creatively, overcome obstacles and just keep swimming until you get there.

It doesn't mean no other part of your business (or life) will get movement. In fact, you'll see crazy changes all over the place. When you choose one focus and work on it mindfully, everything in the periphery will transform and grow, because everything is everything.

When you choose, you're not choosing ONE success, you're choosing a ripple of successes, but you are focusing all your energy on the center of that ripple.

What's your biggest craftybiz question?

What do you feel is the biggest thing standing between you and your independence?

For most of my adult life, I thought it was knowledge.
I thought if I knew more, read more, studied more…I could craft the life I wanted.

And I brought that to you, to what we do together…I thought the thing you were missing was knowledge.

So I taught classes and built a Starship.

But then everything shifted. After about a month in the Starship, I realized that everyone  wasn't really asking “How Do I Do This?”

They were asking,

What do I do next?

How do I get there?

Now, it's easy to answer those questions with definite I-know-what's-right answer. I can say, You do this, then this and this. I can answer with my smarts.

But doesn't address the heart of the question.
It makes you dependent on The Person With The Answers.

YOU have the answers.

You know the things to do to build a successful business.

(and if you really are new to the whole business thing, the Starship is full of classes that teach you the basics)

What you really want to know is “How do I take what I know and turn it into what I want?”

When I realized this is the real question, I knew I don't want to give you another pile of smarts; I want to help you unfold what you know.
I want to help you compose your OWN map to your independence.

I want you to take everything you've learned
and turn into a path to walk.

And so I looked at my business: what really turned all that knowledge into independence?
It was a process: taking the knowledge, focusing on one endpoint and then breaking it down into it's parts.
Turning all that into something that would hold my attention until I got to the endpoint.

I took that process and I created a Map-Making Guide.

The guide will help you unearth all that you already know.
It will help you plan it out in a smart way.
And it will help you create something visual and visible that will keep your path in your mind, even when you get distracted.

You can get the Map-Making Guide right here.

What is keeping YOU from crafting your independence?
Knowledge? Or knowing how to apply that knowledge?

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A huge thanks to two Cadets who helped make this Map-Making Guide possible:

Amy Crook illustrated a lovely stone map, princess, dragon and other map-tastic goodies.

Lori-Ann Claerhout was editor extrodinaire. She helped me clarify, simplify, and spell right.

Yesterday I wrote a guest post for Handmade Success about how important accountability is for your business. You can read the whole post here.

Today, I want to share my recent noticings about  accountability.

The last two months, I've been part of giant experiment in accountability and what it will do for brand-new craft businesses.

The Starship.

Let's face it, it's been over 5 years since I first started my craftybiz.
It's hard to remember all the hard parts of starting up. It's even hard to remember the challenges of the 2-years-into-it (first craft shows, first wholesale orders).

The Starship and all the sweet, vulnerable sharings of the Cadets* there has reminded me.

*Cadets is what we call members, no matter how advanced their business is. Once you complete the Map-Making Guide, you become an Ensign, and after each class you earn another pip + new title. It's really goofy.
There are no red shirts.

Through them, I can see how bewildering creating an online presence can be.
Through them, I can see how easy it is to doubt yourself.
Through them, I'm learning to go deeper, to communicate clearly, to hold back and watch the daring things they'll do for themselves.

But more than anything, I'm learning how important a community of peers, cheerleaders, and clear-headed advisers can be.

Working one-on-one is transformational, but can be short-lived. It relies on you to make the transformation.

Working with a group is a slower transformation, but you're gently held throughout the process.
You're encouraged and reminded and held accountable.
It's sustainable.
It soaks in deep.

And it's vitally important for the success of your business.

In my Handmade Success post I say:

It's hard to prioritize connecting when (online at least) it looks so much like time-wasting.

Our need for accountability, to stand around the (real or virtual) water cooler and talk about what's going on is deeply human and can't be ignored.
If you have a hard time putting in the time when you think of it as self-care (and I understand that!), then think of it as a business investment.
Study after study shows that the more connected we are, the greater our success will be.

 

The Cadets who take part in the Communication Station (forums) or the weekly check-ins make far more progress than anyone else in any other form I've worked in (classes, coaching, etc).

It's not just supportive and sweet, it makes real change.

Now, this isn't really about the Starship and its wonderfulness.

It's about community and finding yours.
It's about asking (and allowing) others to hold you accountable.

How can you get started on that today?

PS. You can get that community anywhere online (and there are some good tips here), but if you're looking for something a bit more craftybiz focused, check out the Starship.