Do you ever say that to yourself?
When you know you should be doing one thing, but instead do another?
When you know what to do to move your business forward and just don't do it?
When you feel guilty for not doing better?
In our recent Starship chat, “I'm so bad” jumped out at me. I heard it (in some form or another) from everyone.
From hard-working, thriving mavens.
From successful, I can't fulfill demand crafters.
From just getting started, don't know where to go next adventurers.
I thought (and said): You're doing what you can. This takes time and you're on the path. You might not be there yet, but you ARE taking steps to get you there.
And then, out of town visiting my mother-in-law for her birthday this weekend, I had a seizure of panic on Sunday morning. I turned to my husband and said, “If I was only working harder, I wouldn't feel so bad about taking this weekend off. If only I got more done last week! Ugh, I just feel awful!”
Jay, wonder-hub that he is, said, “You couldn't do anymore. What you're doing is enough. And you know it. You know that longer hours and more work doesn't lead to better work or more sales. It just wears you out.”
He was convincing and I was calmed, but I got to wondering, where does this come from?
Is there some gold standard of productivity, some level of business that we're all striving for? If so, where in the heck did it come from?
More importantly, how did it insinuate itself into my relaxed, experiment-rich, journey of a business?
I find there's a tension (for some of us) between wanting to thrive, to grow, to move AND wanting to keep a Sabbath, to respect the cycle, to grow organically.
We worry that we're not doing, being, pushing enough while also knowing we need naps, floor stretches, and novel-reading.
We embrace the tenets of self-care and rejuvination when we're tired and burnt out, but rush back to pushing and judging when we're short on cash.
Clearly, an experiment is order.
What would help YOU remember that by going slow, taking time, taking naps you are refilling the well, not shirking your duty?
Share your thoughts in the comments and we'll build an experiment together.